Now I understand why all the old aunties always advise us to marry early and have kids early.
I started too late. I am on the verge of adding another candle to my birthday cake (the day is next week, but celebrations start this today! Yippee!!), i.e. on the verge of middle edge, on the verge of a mid-life crisis, suffering from symthoms of peri-menopause with mood swings, etc.…… and I still have to wake up at night for night feeds, change diapers, and run after the kids, nag them on their homework, teach them to read, teach them to write, teach them to colour within the lines! I just have no patience anymore!
Many a times I just feel tooo tired. Too tired to play with the kids, too tired to do fun activities with them, too tired to want to do anything, except to sit back for a nice massage, have a drink, go out with my friends, go shopping, and eh, … blog.
In our parents’ time, they were married by 25 and had 3 or more kids before they were 30. By the time they were mid 40s, they were enjoying their time – mahjong during weekends, shopping, cooking, etc. We are just starting too late. Kids at past 40? Never heard of previously!! But I did it (with Little D). Now I am paying the price.
Now, I am the "old auntie". When I meet young couples, I tell them not to be like me and have kids late. Have them early so that you can enjoy them more and be able to do the fun things with them while you still have the energy. Also, you will save money... no need for fertility doctors, IVF, etc. Also, you will not be old and grumpy like me, when I am with the kids.
A friend of mine who had her last child at 41 told me of an incident. She was looking for an enrichment class for her youngest child and when she walked into one such centre, the receptionist asked her: "Auntie, looking for class for your grand child?" She walked right out! No, they did not get her business. (mind you, she doesn't look that old, and is quite trendy). I sure hope it doesn't happen to me when the time comes when I am doing the same for Little D!!
So looks like it is a good thing to listen to the advise dished out by the old aunties. If I did, I would be semi-retired from child rearing by now! What do you think?