Friday, July 6, 2007

Tag - SAHM vs FTWM

I have been tagged by nomadic-mom.

Here’s how it works:
1. So easy peasy, if you were given a choice, would you be a SAHM or FTWM? Just provide 3 darn good reasons.
2. Include your post link to the list below and
Finally,3. Tag another three mommies

When I first started being a SAHM, I really wanted to go back to work. The kids were very young then. N was 6 months and S was 4. I had no time for myself. Cooped up with the kids all day. I yearned for my financial independence, mental stimulation, and time with my friends. However, with time, I have accepted and am begining to enjoy being a SAHM more and more, tho' there are times when I do think of going back to work. So which do I prefer if I had a choice now?

SAHM of course! why?
1. I am around to guide my children (morally and educationally), and I believe I will see the rewards in time to come.

2. I am around for all their milestones. Most of these I missed for my 1st child.

3. I dont want to be part of all those office politics. I hate it, and when I was leaving, I saw some of the true colours of those whom I previously respected, and I know it is the same everywhere.

Also having been out of the industry for so long (7 years), I dont think I am in a position to go back to my previous position in a professional services firm, as there has been too many changes, and I have not kept fully abreast with these changes. To do so would mean I have to take a step down, and I dont think I can accept that. To my kids, I think I am worth much more than what my bosses can pay me. And the joy of watching my children grow and learn is enough for me.

Well, all done! Sorry but i will not be tagging anyone as most of the mums have done it already.


tigerfish said...

Bravo! Bravo! Cannot comment on (1) and (2) -since no kids yet, but definitely agree on (3). I missed my financial independence too, initially but now I'm starting to get use to it. Non-working life is so much more peaceful. I do treasure it :)

Victor said...

Er... what's FTWM? Foreign talent working mum?

mott said...

hee hee heee.....i hvn't wor..but shhhh........!!!!

anyway, i agree on no.3 the most. somehow that never changes!

bp said...

Three cheers for SAHMs everywhere! =)

stay-at-home mum said...

Hi Victor
FTWM is full time working mum

Hi all
Yes, politiking can be found in all offices at all levels :=(
3 cheers for SAHMs - I think it is the most noble profession around. (sorry FTWMs)

NomadicMom said...

Yeap...I hate Office Politics too... It got so bad in my last place of work that quiting and being a SAHM was an easy-peasy decision to make!!

stay-at-home mum said...

Nomadic mom
Guess office politics is everywhere. Some people will do anything just to get to the top!